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Proverbs 31:30 "Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain but a woman who feareth the Lord shall be praised."

 

Psalms 139:14 "I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well."

 

Genesis 1:27 "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them."

 

Kim Kardashian recently wrote a book called "Selfish." I wouldn't exactly call it a book for reading, it was a picture book of yes you guessed it, selfies of her. She initially made it for her husband than decided the rest of the world would be curious of all her angles too so she published it. Can't hate the girl for cashing in on opportunities. We live in a world that is all about outward beauty. I have boxes upon boxes of pictures of me from middle school back when you had to take a picture and wait for CVS to develop them a week later and pay for each print! I would say half of what I printed and paid for were selfies. If you can do a selfie on a disposable camera you have skills and back in 1998 I had skills because that is what I would do all day. Selfies were not even a thing back then! So when they became popular I remember thinking, wow society you are so far behind, I have albums of selfies!

 

Self image is a huge thing in society, not just with women, men deal with self image issues as well. I have always had self image issues. Not because my parents didn't love me or because I had some awful experience. I think mostly it was because I remember always looking different from everyone so I always wanted to prove to others I was beautiful. I have distinct features being of middle eastern descent and not to give her any more publicity or name drops but once Kim Kardashian came out and society accepted her as a gorgeous, middle eastern woman (because she really was the first middle eastern famous woman) I felt as if one of my types of people were finally considered beautiful. Most people in the media viewed beauty up until that point as All American type people with button noses and perfect facial features and here came Kim with distinct, not perfect features and today is considered one of the worlds most beautiful women. A lot of women's self esteem worth especially those who may not know the Lord come from the celebrity, magazine  and tabloid culture.

 

I remember as a young girl doing beauty pageants in hopes of winning to prove I was pretty, I remember doing cheerleading for that same reason. I refused to let the cheerleaders be blondes or brunettes with straight, gorgeous hair! It drove me nuts so I did everything I could to make it on the team! When I moved to Los Angeles a decade ago every Thursday I would go to Santa Monica and do a test shoot at the Playboy headquarters. I would literally pose nude with a stranger, usually an older man was who they hired as photographers in hopes of being picked as one of the 12 most beautiful women in the world. Society told us that if you were a playmate you were perfect. In God's divine work he never allowed me to get picked as a playmate and I remember resenting him for it but now that I am saved I couldn't be more thankful for his hand in my life during that time.

 

I remember when I was young, in high school a friend saying "you won't have this body forever so why not wear next to nothing?" Back in that day Britney Spears was huge and crop tops and Spice Girls high heels were the in thing! Hugh Hefner himself has been quoted as saying "we were born naked, there is nothing wrong with nudity." Again more self image distortion.

 

This idea of poor self image grew into my adult life and caused me to make poor choices such as sex before marriage and coaxing men into continuing to sleep with me in fear of being alone even if they no longer wanted to court me. Through our non profit I have seen many women come through our doors from the sex industry, some were sex trafficked and say they just can't stop because they don't know what else they will be good at!! Society has groomed us that outward beauty matters.

 

Now all of the sudden a woman has a visible 6 pack stomach while being 9 months pregnant and another woman only has 8 pounds to lose after birthing full term twins. Talk about pressure!! Women constantly are now feeding into society that if you don't look how people (who only show a portion of their life via social media) do than you are failing.

 

May I encourage you that God sees our heart. 1 Samuel 16:7 "But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looked on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart."

 

Notice through most of this devotion I referenced the world? What would Kim do if she lost her outward beauty? What could she sell? Her entire brand and lifestyle is based solely off of IF her looks stay how society expects. That is what makes being a daughter of the King so magical is the blessing we have by knowing how he sees us. So if we know how God views us why are we constantly trying to view beauty like the world does? By constantly being disappointed with how God made us perfect in his image we basically are saying he failed in doing his job. Now I'm not saying to let yourself go, but don't be so consumed with keeping up with the Jones or Kardashians in regards to outward beauty. Beauty will fade or you could get into a wreck and your entire physical appearance is changed forever. But inward beauty and finding our worth in Jesus and how he sees us will stay with us forever. The most beautiful woman in the world may not look like Kim, Britney or even Princess Kate, but the most beautiful woman is a woman to whom lives with confidence knowing where her worth lies and that is with the one who created her.

 

Daily tip: In a self absorbed, beauty is skin deep world be the difference that might lead someone to Jesus by seeing something different about you in how you carry yourself with confidence that can only come from your security through a personal relationship with your savior.